Her Over-Functioning Recovery Guide™
A practical path to heal burnout, release the mental load, inspire his leadership, and create family harmony without carrying it all.
The Embodied Healing Roadmap™ for Driven Women
A no BS guide for women who’ve mastered coping—but crave real freedom.
Everyone Knows your Hubby is a Real Nice Guy, But Really You're Over-Functioning To Bridge the Gap for His Under-functioning. you're Exhausted, feeling Resentful and Wondering, "How the hell Did I get here?"
You appear calm, connected, put together and successful, but you’re tired. Burnt-out. Irritable. Exhausted. Resentful.
You're resentful toward him, your work, your lack of boundaries and your failing body
No matter how hard you try to let go and relax, you just cant. Because balls getting dropped makes you anxious AF.
No matter how many times you try to do a self-care routine, you always let the mental load, the family, and the "yeses" get in the way of making yourself a priority.
This is roadmap for women who desire to make changes, soften, who want to respond to their husband differently, who crave his leadership, who know they can have harmony in marriage, life and health; but have no idea how.
Written by Andrea Clark, MFT, CDBT, CMWC-trauma survivor, recovered anxious control freak, former queen of over-functioning, high-achieving business owner and retired Marriage and Family Therapist who cracked the code on her own healing and marriage.
Her mission is to help women heal and find their own freedom and happiness.
You don’t look Or Feel anxious-But your body says otherwise.
You appear calm, connected, and successful-But you’re tired. Over-functioning. Irritable. Exhausted.
And no matter how much you achieve… something still feels off.
This is roadmap for women who’ve got all the coping strategies, outgrown survival mode — and are finally ready for real, root-cause healing.
Written by Andrea Clark, MFT, CDBT, CMWC-trauma survivor, recovered anxious control freak and retired Marriage and Family Therapist who cracked the code on her own healing and helps other women do the same.
Why I Get You
I'm a go-getter, self-sufficient and always on my A-game with high expectations of myself and life.
We found ourselves on the verge divorce. I was bitter, angry and felt completely alone carrying the mental load and life’s many tasks on my shoulders. Not to mention, my body started screaming at me with all sorts of random health issues.
He is more passive and laid back. A brilliant man, a great dad and very skilled at his work; but he was failing to step up, provided inconsistent support and never shared the mental load. In fact, I was reminding him of all the things he said he would do.
I felt like he was my 12 years old son and he definitely felt like I was his mom. We would shove these feelings away, but every few weeks they would bubble to the surface causing a rift or explosion.
I would over-explain my feelings trying to get him to see my needs and perspective. He would agree and I could see he felt like shit about himself. That cycle never created any real change in our dynamics. We would be good for a couple weeks and then slip into old patterns. I would overfunction and he would underfunction.
We lived that way for our whole marriage until recently.
Now he steps up, is learning new skills to help manage the mental load, he is remembering. I feel supported and cared for. He feels more confident and in his healthy masculine. He is starting to feel like the leader of our home and Im giving him the space to figure it out without pressure on him or anxiety for me. He is more romantic. I am more flirty and soft. Our daughter is less tense and stressed.
This shift between us has also benefited both of our health. We are both sleeping better, have lost inflammation and weight and are in better moods allowing us to be more present in all the areas of our life.
It didn't start that way, but my focus was always on what he was not doing, not doing right and not doing enough of or how unsupported I felt. This led to my negativity, criticism and tones. I didn't even realize I was doing it most of the time. It was subtle and nuanced. When I did realize, I justified my attitude and actions with “why do I need to change? I'm already doing everything. He has it so easy. My anger is justified!”
But it wasn't working for us. It didn't make him change. In fact it just made him feel crappier, squashing any confidence and hope he had.
I knew I didn't really want to get divorced. I love him and he is my best friend. I wanted to be sure I gave this everything I could before I threw in the towel.
So I decided to do something radical and started focusing on me instead of him. Listen, this doesn't mean he didn't have stuff to work on and that I let all expectations go. No way, but I wanted to do an experiment to see what would happen. I had couples in my practice do it all the time and so many marriages were saved. Why not try it for myself?
I focused on myself. My healing. My boundaries. My expectations. My happiness. How I may be unknowingly contributing to the problem and pattern. My expectations. How my childhood contributed to how I experience him and our challenges.
Holy smokes! He started stepping up, he started pursuing me. It was not perfect or easy at first. And we are still figuring it out, but he started proactively taking care of himself, the house, tasks and sharing in the mental load. He started surprising me with, “I already took care of that.” Ummmmm, SEXAY!!!!
He started doing things for his own health and healing. He started voicing more opinions about decisions, making me feel supported in the mental load and like he is the leader I alwasy knew was buried inside. He stepped up the romance and planning dates. Our connection and sex life is delicious.
Being brave enough to focus on myself first was the catalyst for everything else.
I want the same for you.
DISCLAIMER
This guide is full of your first steps, resources and what you need to start considering and doing to have your own personal and marital transformation. It’s also not a guarantee that your marriage will heal, but if you follow the steps consistently and utilize these resources, I can confidently guarantee you will heal. It’s the first step to increasing the probability of having happy healed marriage and inspiring his leadership.
What You’ll Learn
The real culprit at the root of your over-functioning, over-achievement, need for control
How trauma, your nervous system, emotional suppression, and biological (not chemical) imbalances feed your overfunctioning and burnout
Why high-functioning, driven and over-functioning women stay stuck despite being "self-aware" and knowing what they need to do. Hint: it’s not all your boss’s or spouse’s fault
How to reset your mind-body-hormone connection so calm and resilience become your new normal
How to move from managing, pretending and just holding it all together to actually healing — for yourself, your marriage, your children, and your future
First steps to inspiring his leadership
What You’ll Learn Inside
How anxiety hides in achievement, control, and doing “everything right"
How trauma, your nervous system, and emotional suppression feed anxiety
Why high-functioning women stay stuck despite being "self-aware"
How to reset your mind-body connection so calm and resilience become your new normal
How to move from managing anxiety to actually healing it — for yourself, your children, and your future
This includes a practical roadmap with step-by-step instructions
The books I read
The podcasts I listened to
The products, devices and tools (with links)
The supplements (with links)
The tests and practitioners (with links)
The root healing modalities to rewire your nervous system and subconscious for good (with links)
Research and works cited to support everything I share
My 16 years of clinical knowledge, expertise and recommendations for what truly works
My real, raw and vulnerable story to how I saved myself, my sanity, my marriage and healed my body
Journal/Planning Prompts to create your personalized roadmap (because every women’s journey is slightly different)
This isn’t about coping.
It’s about root-cause healing.
Ready to take back your life?
96 pages of clinically-backed, professional and personal insight-no gatekeeping
Insights to interrupt anxiety patterns for good
Simple daily rituals to support your healing at the root
A clear phased healing roadmap to follow at your pace
Links to everything I use: supplements, tests, practitioners, tools, books, audibles and other healing tools
Workbook to create your personalized healing roadmap
Tools to reference again and again as you heal layer by layer
This isn’t about coping.
It’s about root-cause healing.
Ready to Go From...
Tired, brain fog, moody and exhausted to rested, mental clarity, calm and balanced. And even shed a few unwanted pounds
Over-functioning and overwhelmed to feeling safe to let more go
“I’m the only one who can do it right” to “I don’t care how they do it as long as it gets done”
Saying yes when you want to say no, overcommitting and over-performing to “No.” guilt free
From “I have no idea why I keep doing this when I know better” to breaking patterns and cycles for good
From a tense and resentful marriage to more relaxed, softer and flirtier, with him stepping up
If you’ve built a life that looks great from the outside but feels like a quiet breakdown behind the scenes… This guide was made for you
This Guide Is For You If…
You’re a high-performing woman and/or busy mom who’s secretly burnt the f*ck out
You’ve done the journaling, therapy, maybe even the meds — and still feel anxious
You’re ready to stop drowning in bandaid approaches and reclaim you mind and body for good
You’re terrified you’re passing this on to your kids — and you’re ready to break the cycle
If you’ve built a life that looks great from the outside but feels like a quiet breakdown behind the scenes… This guide was made for you
Why This Works
(when nothing else has)
Most resources teach you how to manage and cope.
This roadmap shows you how to actually heal.
It’s born of lived experience, clinical insight, and the radical truth — "You can heal"
It’s not just mindset work. It’s not another trend.
It’s not pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
This is real, raw, practical liberation.
Why This Works
(when nothing else has)
Most resources teach you how to manage your anxiety.
This guide teaches you how to actually heal it.
It’s born of lived experience, clinical insight, and the radical truth- "You can heal"
It’s not just mindset work. It’s not another trend.
It’s not pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
This is real, raw, practical liberation.
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
“I finally have language for what I’ve been feeling. And tools that actually help.”
— Amanda
“This is what I needed instead of meds. It gave me a roadmap.”
— Anna, RN
Mom of two
“A beacon of hope. Science-backed, compassionate, and rooted in truth.”
— Dani Seadon, Holistic Nurse
Founder of the Wellness Collective
“One of the most well-rounded, practical, and honest mental health tools for women I’ve seen.”
— Rachel Miller, PA-C
Trauma-Informed Coach
"This guide is a lifeline for women who have felt stuck, unseen, and overwhelmed. Andrea provides powerful, science-rooted tools that would take years to piece together alone. This is far more than information — it’s transformation."
— Cheryl Manning, OTR/L, CMWC
Founder of Wellness Legacy
This is an educational product and is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, or individualized treatment. It does not diagnose, treat, or guarantee outcomes for any condition. Due to the digital nature of this product, it is considered “used” upon purchase. All sales are final. No refunds will be issued under any circumstance. By purchasing, you agree to these terms and understand that results vary based on individual effort, context, and consistency. If you do not receive your digital download, please contact us with your transaction details to ensure prompt delivery.
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
“I finally have language for what I’ve been feeling. And tools that actually help.”
— Amanda
“This is what I needed instead of meds. It gave me a roadmap.”
— Anna, RN
Mom of two
“A beacon of hope. Science-backed, compassionate, and rooted in truth.”
— Dani Seadon, Holistic Nurse
Founder of the Wellness Collective
“One of the most well-rounded, practical, and honest mental health tools I’ve seen.”
— Rachel Miller, PA-C
Trauma-Informed Coach
"This guide is a lifeline for women who have felt stuck, unseen, and overwhelmed. Andrea provides powerful, science-rooted tools that would take years to piece together alone. This is far more than information — it’s transformation."
— Cheryl Manning, OTR/L, CMWC
Founder of Wellness Legacy
This is an educational product and is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, or individualized treatment. It does not diagnose, treat, or guarantee outcomes for any condition. Due to the digital nature of this product, it is considered “used” upon purchase. All sales are final. No refunds will be issued under any circumstance. By purchasing, you agree to these terms and understand that results vary based on individual effort, context, and consistency. If you do not receive your digital download, please contact us with your transaction details to ensure prompt delivery.
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Instant digital access (PDF download)
Lifetime updates included
VIP discount to podcast version launching soon (have me in your ear all the time)
💸 One-time payment of
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Whether you need help customizing your nervous system reset plan, want deeper insight into your symptoms, or just need someone who gets it—this is your space to be seen, heard, and supported.
You don’t have to do this alone. Healing happens faster with the right support.
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Want Personal Support on Your Healing Journey?
If you're looking for more personalized guidance, I’ve got you covered. Alongside this guide, I’m offering a private consultation service to support you one-on-one.
Whether you need help customizing your nervous system reset plan, want deeper insight into your symptoms, or just need someone who gets it—this is your space to be seen, heard, and supported.
You don’t have to do this alone. Healing happens faster with the right support.