Her Over-Functioning Recovery Guide™
A practical path to heal burnout, release the mental load, inspire his leadership, and create family harmony without carrying it all.
Her Over-Functioning Recovery Guide™
A practical path to heal burnout, release the mental load, inspire his leadership, and create family harmony without carrying it all.
He’s a Good Man. But You’re Still the One Holding It All.
You’re the default parent, the emotional barometer, the walking to-do list. You’ve tried to soften, let go, “not care so much”—but the balls drop, and guess who picks them up?
You’re tired. Touchy. Resentful. You love him and sometimes you feel like his mom. Your body’s screaming, your libido’s MIA, and your inner voice whispers...
“How did I become the one doing it all?”
This isn’t just stress. It’s over-functioning. And it’s killing your joy, your intimacy, your peace. But there’s a different path.
If you want a marriage where you’re cherished without being in charge. If you want your husband to lead, hold, and pursue you again. If you want to heal your body and your burnout at the root...
This guide is for you.
Created by Andrea Clark, MFT, CDBT, CMWC-trauma survivor and recovered anxious control freak, former queen of over-functioning, high-achieving business owner, and retired marriage & family therapist who cracked the code on her own healing and marriage.
She’s helped thousands of women reclaim their energy, their relationships, and their sense of self.
And now—it’s your turn.
Let’s get you out of survival and into sacred, supported power.
He’s a Good Man. But You’re Still the One Holding It All.
You’re the default parent, the emotional barometer, the walking to-do list. You’ve tried to soften, let go, “not care so much”—but the balls drop, and guess who picks them up?
You’re tired. Touchy. Resentful. You love him and sometimes you feel like his mom. Your body’s screaming, your libido’s MIA, and your inner voice whispers...
“How did I become the one doing it all?”
This isn’t just stress. It’s over-functioning. And it’s killing your joy, your intimacy, your peace. But there’s a different path.
If you want a marriage where you’re cherished without being in charge. If you want your husband to lead, hold, and pursue you again. If you want to heal your body and your burnout at the root...
This guide is for you.
Created by Andrea Clark, MFT, CDBT, CMWC-trauma survivor and recovered anxious control freak, former queen of over-functioning, high-achieving business owner, and retired marriage & family therapist who cracked the code on her own healing and marriage.
She’s helped thousands of women reclaim their energy, their relationships, and their sense of self.
And now—it’s your turn.
Let’s get you out of survival and into sacred, supported power.
Why I Get You
I’m a go-getter. Self-sufficient. Always on my A-game. High standards, high output, high pressure, especially on myself.
And we were quietly falling apart. I carried everything; the appointments, the dishes, the emotions, the decisions. The mental load never turned off.
My nervous system? Fried. My body started screaming with symptoms no doctor could explain.
He’s a good man, smart, loyal, steady; but he wasn’t leading. He wasn’t seeing. He wasn’t stepping in. I felt like I was raising our daughter and him. And nothing shuts down your libido like feeling like his mom.
I would over-explain, over-process, hoping he'd finally get it. He’d agree, feel awful, promise to try. And then? Nothing would really shift.
We’d be fine for a few weeks. Then snap. Another rupture. Another repair. Right back in the loop.
He under-functioned. I over-functioned. And my body was the one breaking down from it.
We lived this rollercoaster for years.
Things Changed
Now? He steps up. He’s learning new skills. He helps with the mental load. He remembers. And I feel supported like my body can exhale.
He stands in his leadership. I stop micromanaging. I give him the space to figure it out, not from fear, but from trust. He’s more romantic. I’m softer. He pursues. I respond.
Our daughter? Calmer. More at ease. Our health even changed. We sleep. We laugh. We feel lighter. But it didn’t start that way.
At first, all I could see was what he wasn’t doing. I was tired, resentful, and convinced it was all on me. I didn’t realize how often I criticized. How much my nervous system was scanning for danger.
I kept thinking, Why do I have to be the one to change? I’m already doing everything.
And that thinking made me feel justified… but not free. The truth? My anger wasn’t making him rise. It was making him retreat.
I didn’t want to get divorced. I love him. He’s my best friend. But I knew I couldn’t keep living like this.
So I did something radical:
I stopped trying to change him and started regulating me.
Not to let him off the hook. Not to tolerate less.
But to see what would happen if I brought myself back to safety.
I’d seen it happen in my clients’ lives.
Why not try it for my own?
The Shift That Changed Everything
I turned inward. I focused on my healing. My nervous system. My boundaries. My body. I stopped waiting for him to change so I could feel safe. I became the safety.
I got honest about how my own survival patterns—my hyper-independence, my high expectations, my childhood conditioning—were keeping me stuck in the same loop I said I wanted out of.
And then…
He stepped in. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But he started remembering who he was. He took care of things before I had to ask. He held me instead of fixing me. He surprised me with, “I already took care of that.” My body flushed with warmth. Ummmm, SEXY.
He planned the date. He voiced the opinion. He held the tension. He showed up for his health and our home. He led. And I became the soft, flirtatious woman I missed being. Our sex life deepened. Our connection expanded.
And most importantly? I no longer felt alone in the relationship I was trying to save.
Was it always easy? No. But it was worth it. It all started with me choosing me. Not to do more.
But to feel more, and let that feeling lead.
I want the same for you.
Why I Get You
I’m a go-getter. Self-sufficient. Always on my A-game. High standards, high output, high pressure, especially on myself.
And we were quietly falling apart. I carried everything; the appointments, the dishes, the emotions, the decisions. The mental load never turned off.
My nervous system? Fried. My body started screaming with symptoms no doctor could explain.
He’s a good man, smart, loyal, steady; but he wasn’t leading. He wasn’t seeing. He wasn’t stepping in. I felt like I was raising our daughter and him. And nothing shuts down your libido like feeling like his mom.
I would over-explain, over-process, hoping he'd finally get it. He’d agree, feel awful, promise to try. And then? Nothing would really shift.
We’d be fine for a few weeks. Then snap. Another rupture. Another repair. Right back in the loop.
He under-functioned. I over-functioned. And my body was the one breaking down from it.
We lived this rollercoaster for years.
Things Changed
Now? He steps up. He’s learning new skills. He helps with the mental load. He remembers. And I feel supported like my body can exhale.
He stands in his leadership. I stop micromanaging. I give him the space to figure it out, not from fear, but from trust. He’s more romantic. I’m softer. He pursues. I respond.
Our daughter? Calmer. More at ease. Our health even changed. We sleep. We laugh. We feel lighter. But it didn’t start that way.
At first, all I could see was what he wasn’t doing. I was tired, resentful, and convinced it was all on me. I didn’t realize how often I criticized. How much my nervous system was scanning for danger.
I kept thinking, Why do I have to be the one to change? I’m already doing everything.
And that thinking made me feel justified… but not free. The truth? My anger wasn’t making him rise. It was making him retreat.
I didn’t want to get divorced. I love him. He’s my best friend. But I knew I couldn’t keep living like this.
So I did something radical:
I stopped trying to change him and started regulating me.
Not to let him off the hook. Not to tolerate less.
But to see what would happen if I brought myself back to safety.
I’d seen it happen in my clients’ lives.
Why not try it for my own?
The Shift That Changed Everything
I turned inward. I focused on my healing. My nervous system. My boundaries. My body. I stopped waiting for him to change so I could feel safe. I became the safety.
I got honest about how my own survival patterns—my hyper-independence, my high expectations, my childhood conditioning—were keeping me stuck in the same loop I said I wanted out of.
And then…
He stepped in. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But he started remembering who he was. He took care of things before I had to ask. He held me instead of fixing me. He surprised me with, “I already took care of that.” My body flushed with warmth. Ummmm, SEXY.
He planned the date. He voiced the opinion. He held the tension. He showed up for his health and our home. He led. And I became the soft, flirtatious woman I missed being. Our sex life deepened. Our connection expanded.
And most importantly? I no longer felt alone in the relationship I was trying to save.
Was it always easy? No. But it was worth it. It all started with me choosing me. Not to do more.
But to feel more, and let that feeling lead.
I want the same for you.
Why This Guide
I didn’t just live this, I’ve led thousands of women through it. For 13 years, I practiced as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
For 15 years, I’ve coached women who carry everything; the schedule, the emotional labor, the resentment, the weight of “doing it all right.”
I’ve sat with them in their breakdowns and guided them into breakthroughs. I know the science and the soul of what it takes to rebuild a body that’s burned out and a marriage that’s gone quiet.
This isn’t theory. This is the work that’s actually works. This is for women just like you who were ready to stop managing it all and start healing for real so you can finally be held by his love and devotion.
Why This Guide
I didn’t just live this, I’ve led thousands of women through it. For 13 years, I practiced as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
For 15 years, I’ve coached women who carry everything; the schedule, the emotional labor, the resentment, the weight of “doing it all right.”
I’ve sat with them in their breakdowns and guided them into breakthroughs. I know the science and the soul of what it takes to rebuild a body that’s burned out and a marriage that’s gone quiet.
This isn’t theory. This is the work that’s actually works. This is for women just like you who were ready to stop managing it all and start healing for real so you can finally be held by his love and devotion.
Inside, You’ll Learn How To...
Uncover the real root of your over-functioning; not just trauma, but the nervous system pattern that made control feel safer than being held
Break free from burnout fueled by hormone imbalances, hyper-responsibility, and emotional suppression without needing meds, diagnoses, or another productivity hack
Understand why being self-aware isn’t enough—and how high-achieving women stay stuck in survival even when they know better
Reset your mind-body-hormone connection so calm becomes your new default and chaos no longer feels familiar
Stop managing, performing, and parenting everyone (including your husband) and start healing for real. For yourself, your marriage, and your future
Take the first steps to inspiring his leadership so you can soften, be pursued, and trust him to carry what you’ve been holding alone
Lay the foundation for magnetic intimacy, emotional safety, and deep respect without nagging, over-explaining, or settling
Inside, You’ll Learn How To...
Uncover the real root of your over-functioning; not just trauma, but the nervous system pattern that made control feel safer than being held
Break free from burnout fueled by hormone imbalances, hyper-responsibility, and emotional suppression without needing meds, diagnoses, or another productivity hack
Understand why being self-aware isn’t enough—and how high-achieving women stay stuck in survival even when they know better
Reset your mind-body-hormone connection so calm becomes your new default and chaos no longer feels familiar
Stop managing, performing, and parenting everyone (including your husband) and start healing for real. For yourself, your marriage, and your future
Take the first steps to inspiring his leadership so you can soften, be pursued, and trust him to carry what you’ve been holding alone
Lay the foundation for magnetic intimacy, emotional safety, and deep respect without nagging, over-explaining, or settling
This isn’t just a guide. It’s your step-by-step nervous system-led recovery plan to stop over-functioning, inspire his leadership, and come home to yourself.
You'll get instant access to:
The exact books, podcasts, and tools that helped me reclaim my sanity and finally feel safe slowing down
Direct links to the supplements, tests, and practitioners I trust and recommend
My go-to modalities to rewire your nervous system and subconscious so you stop reacting and start receiving
Evidence-backed research + real-world application, not generic wellness fluff
My 15+ years of clinical and experience, plus hard-earned recommendations for what actually works
The raw, vulnerable story of how I healed my body and rebuilt intimacy in my marriage without nagging or over-giving
Custom journal and planning prompts to personalize your roadmap (because every woman’s journey is sacred and unique)
Ready to stop holding it all together and finally be held?
This isn’t just a guide. It’s your step-by-step nervous system-led recovery plan to stop over-functioning, inspire his leadership, and come home to yourself.
You'll get instant access to:
The exact books, podcasts, and tools that helped me reclaim my sanity and finally feel safe slowing down
Direct links to the supplements, tests, and practitioners I trust and recommend
My go-to modalities to rewire your nervous system and subconscious so you stop reacting and start receiving
Evidence-backed research + real-world application, not generic wellness fluff
My 15+ years of clinical and experience, plus hard-earned recommendations for what actually works
The raw, vulnerable story of how I healed my body and rebuilt intimacy in my marriage without nagging or over-giving
Custom journal and planning prompts to personalize your roadmap (because every woman’s journey is sacred and unique)
Ready to stop holding it all together and finally be held?
Ready to Go From...
Tired, foggy, moody, and wired-but-exhausted → to calm, clear, regulated... and yes, you might even shed a few unwanted pounds
Over-functioning, micromanaging, and always-on → to safe enough to soften, let go, and let him step in
“I’m the only one who can do it right” → to “I trust him to carry it, because I’m done carrying it all”
Saying yes when you want to scream "no" → to full-bodied “No's" without guilt, and “Yes”s that feel good
“I know better but I keep doing it” → to finally breaking the loop, with tools that regulate your nervous system tapping into your intuition
A tense, transactional marriage → to relaxed, flirty connection where he leads and you want him again
If you’ve built a life that looks great from the outside but feels like a quiet breakdown behind the scenes… This guide was made for you
Ready to Go From...
Tired, foggy, moody, and wired-but-exhausted → to calm, clear, regulated... and yes, you might even shed a few unwanted pounds
Over-functioning, micromanaging, and always-on → to safe enough to soften, let go, and let him step in
“I’m the only one who can do it right” → to “I trust him to carry it, because I’m done carrying it all”
Saying yes when you want to scream "no" → to full-bodied “No's" without guilt, and “Yes”s that feel good
“I know better but I keep doing it” → to finally breaking the loop, with tools that regulate your nervous system tapping into your intuition
A tense, transactional marriage → to relaxed, flirty connection where he leads and you want him again
If you’ve built a life that looks great from the outside but feels like a quiet breakdown behind the scenes… This guide was made for you
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
“I finally have language for what I’ve been feeling. And tools that actually help.”
— Amanda
“This is what I needed instead of meds. It gave me a roadmap.”
— Anna, RN
Mom of two
“A beacon of hope. Science-backed, compassionate, and rooted in truth.”
— Dani Seadon, Holistic Nurse
Founder of the Wellness Collective
“One of the most well-rounded, practical, and honest mental health tools for women I’ve seen.”
— Rachel Miller, PA-C
Trauma-Informed Coach
"This guide is a lifeline for women who have felt stuck, unseen, and overwhelmed. Andrea provides powerful, science-rooted tools that would take years to piece together alone. This is far more than information — it’s transformation."
— Cheryl Manning, OTR/L, CMWC
Founder of Wellness Legacy
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
“I finally have language for what I’ve been feeling. And tools that actually help.”
— Amanda
“This is what I needed instead of meds. It gave me a roadmap.”
— Anna, RN
Mom of two
“A beacon of hope. Science-backed, compassionate, and rooted in truth.”
— Dani Seadon, Holistic Nurse
Founder of the Wellness Collective
“One of the most well-rounded, practical, and honest mental health tools for women I’ve seen.”
— Rachel Miller, PA-C
Trauma-Informed Coach
"This guide is a lifeline for women who have felt stuck, unseen, and overwhelmed. Andrea provides powerful, science-rooted tools that would take years to piece together alone. This is far more than information — it’s transformation."
— Cheryl Manning, OTR/L, CMWC
Founder of Wellness Legacy
Ready to Get to the Root?
You’ve tried mindset. You’ve tried marriage books. You’ve tried pushing through. This is different.
When you download the Her Over-Functioning Recovery Guide, you get immediate access to:
A step-by-step roadmap to release the mental load without letting everything fall apart
The exact strategies I used to heal my body, reconnect with my husband, and stop resenting him
Nervous system tools + somatic prompts that shift your patterns for good
Links to the practitioners, products, tests, and healing tools I trust
My personal story, the science behind the symptoms—and the first steps that actually worked
Lifetime updates so it keeps evolving as you do.
Real value: $147
Your price today: $97
BONUS (Limited Time Only)
Get my brand new audio course: Inspire His Leadership With Your Words — FREE ($997 Value)
You’ll be the first to access this game-changing marriage communication training when it drops on August 4th, with lifetime access included when you buy the guide today.
Click below to reclaim your body, your marriage, and your peace—for less than a therapy session.
Ready to Get to the Root?
You’ve tried mindset. You’ve tried marriage books. You’ve tried pushing through. This is different.
When you download the Her Over-Functioning Recovery Guide, you get immediate access to:
A step-by-step roadmap to release the mental load without letting everything fall apart
The exact strategies I used to heal my body, reconnect with my husband, and stop resenting him
Nervous system tools + somatic prompts that shift your patterns for good
Links to the practitioners, products, tests, and healing tools I trust
My personal story, the science behind the symptoms—and the first steps that actually worked
Lifetime updates so it keeps evolving as you do.
Real value: $147
Your price today: $97
BONUS (Limited Time Only)
Get my brand new audio course: Inspire His Leadership With Your Words — FREE ($997 Value)
You’ll be the first to access this game-changing marriage communication training when it drops on August 4th, with lifetime access included when you buy the guide today.
Click below to reclaim your body, your marriage, and your peace—for less than a therapy session.
A Loving Note Before You Begin:
This guide gives you the exact first steps, resources, and nervous system-rooted strategies I used to heal from over-functioning and rebuild intimacy in my marriage. While no guide can guarantee outcomes, what I can promise is this: If you show up with intention and follow through with these tools, you will heal. Your body will shift. And your relationship will have the best possible chance of becoming the safe, supportive, passionate partnership you crave. This is not about perfection. It’s about starting the healing that changes everything.
A Loving Note Before You Begin:
This guide gives you the exact first steps, resources, and nervous system-rooted strategies I used to heal from over-functioning and rebuild intimacy in my marriage. While no guide can guarantee outcomes, what I can promise is this: If you show up with intention and follow through with these tools, you will heal. Your body will shift. And your relationship will have the best possible chance of becoming the safe, supportive, passionate partnership you crave. This is not about perfection. It’s about starting the healing that changes everything.
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